Real moms...do nothing.

Well I have thought long and hard about this tag I got from VI. And actually the thing I came up with, I have already posted about, just not in the format it was assigned. So, refer back to this post. But in fulfilling the task at hand, I say "Real moms do nothing."

Real moms have to sit back, watch, listen and wait. We watch the friends, boyfriends, arguments and parties that parade through our children's lives. We listen to the laughter, jokes, tears and ugly words. And we sit silently. Waiting. We wait for our children to come to us, to reach out to us to hold them, to wipe away the tears, to listen to the funny stories, to listen to the hurtful comment and to give them a shoulder to cry on.

As parents we often can see the wrong move that our child is taking or that their friends are taking them. Would they listen if we interfered? Unless it is something that is illegal or life threatening, the best thing we can do is to sit and do nothing. We have to let our children learn from their own mistakes, no matter how hard that is.

We know the when our child is first learning to walk that they will probably, more than liking, fall at some point. When they fall they are going to scrap their knee or elbows. So should we as parents discourage our kids from learning to walk? No. We just watch, listen and wait. Watch for them to fall, listen for the crying, wait for the tears and then we respond.

Think back to your own childhood and teenage years. Would you or did you listen to your mother when she would tell you not to do something because it would hurt you? No. You had to try and prove her wrong, learning that after all, she was right. Even as adults, we sometimes still dont listen to our mom. So she sits patiently ...watching, listening and waiting...doing nothing.